Mailbag: “What if my partner has more sexual experience than me? And what if she’s ‘the One’?”

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Today’s letter comes from an American named Ron. It raises several important, and widely resonant issues for sufferers of retroactive jealousy, and sexual jealousy in general. Ron writes: Hi Zachary, My partner has been with a lot more people than I have. I’m jealous of her. I’m jealous that I haven’t been with as many…

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Listen to a New Interview on the Knowledge for Men Podcast

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One of the most enjoyable parts of being an author is connecting with others with similar missions in life. I recently appeared on Andrew Ferebee’s wonderful Knowledge for Men Podcast to talk jealousy, relationships, and more. During the near hour-long interview, we discussed retroactive jealousy, my journey toward overcoming it, how to interpret more “normal’ jealousy in relationships,…

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Meditations: A Roman Emperor’s Guide to Letting Go of Jealousy and Possessiveness

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During a recent interview, I was asked to recommend just one book that every man should read. I chose to recommend a book I think everyone can benefit from, regardless of their gender: the classic Meditations by the ancient Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius. Marcus Aurelius is one of the fathers of Stoicism, the ancient school of Hellenistic philosophy The…

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Listen To My New Interview On The ManTalks Podcast

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ManTalks is a personal development website focused on sharing stories from “men making a difference.” Last month I was honoured to be featured as a ‘Man of the Week,’ and this week I was invited to appear on the ManTalks Podcast to share my story, and talk about retroactive jealousy. If you’re a man (or woman,…

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The Three Different Types of Retroactive Jealousy: An Explainer

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It’s fair to estimate that the overwhelming majority of the global population has never encountered the term “retroactive jealousy.” Someone at a party asks about the projects I’m working on, and I’m consistently met with a confused “Huh?” when I bring it up. Even those of us who become familiar with the term “retroactive jealousy”…

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What is Love?

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Baby, don’t hurt me… (Apologies, couldn’t resist.) … Not long ago, one of the students taking my “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast” course wrote to me with a provocative question. Let’s call him “Ananda:” I was reading your blog post about 36 of your favourite quotes about jealousy, love, and relationships. The final quote,…

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36 Of My Favourite Quotes About Jealousy, Love, and Relationships

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If you Google “quotes about jealousy,” you’ll receive over 700,000 (!) relevant search results. Needless to say, I am merely one voice in a global conversation that has been going on for many millennia about jealousy, love, and possessiveness in romantic relationships. As you might know by now, I read a lot about jealousy, love, and…

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The Wim Hof Method for Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy

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**Please note: this site is not affiliated with Wim Hof, the Wim Hof Method, or the Joe Rogan Experience Podcast in any way. I’m just a fan. If there was a competition for the title of the world’s most interesting man, I’d wager that Wim Hof would rank among the frontrunners. Hof climbed Mount Everest and Mount Kilimanjaro…

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“Living With A Jealous Husband:” What Retroactive Jealousy Feels Like On The Receiving End

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Over the past three years, I’ve put together many articles about what it feels like to suffer from retroactive jealousy (not to mention a guidebook and online course about how to overcome it). At the same time, I’ve written very little about what it feels like when you have a partner who suffers from retroactive jealousy. This is mostly due…

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Listen To My Interview on Retroactive Jealousy for “The Art Of Charm” Podcast

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Recently I was interviewed for one of the most popular self-improvement podcasts in the world. The Art of Charm bills itself as “life coaching for the modern guy,” and their podcast features interviews with authors, coaches, psychologists, business leaders, and more. It’s one of the most enlightening and entertaining podcasts out there, and I felt both humbled…

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