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Retroactive Jealousy Is Not The Same As Conflicting Values

If you’re taking the time to read this article, or have ever found yourself Googling “retroactive jealousy,” chances are very, very good that you’re struggling with retroactive jealousy—not conflicting values. Let me explain… Since I launched this site two years ago, hundreds of people have written to me asking the same question in different ways. That…

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“I Can’t Stop Stalking My Wife’s Past On Facebook:” Retroactive Jealousy And Social Media

In many ways there’s never been a better, or worse, time to be dealing with retroactive jealousy. Unlike decades earlier, with the advent of the internet the average RJ sufferer can find a wealth of useful information on the topic. While it’s true that there is a lot of garbage concerning retroactive jealousy on the internet,…

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Is Sexual Jealousy Natural?

Dr. Christopher Ryan is the co-author of the 2010 bestseller Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, cited by many as one of the most important books on sex and sexuality to emerge in the past fifty years. From Wikipedia: In opposition to what the authors see as the ‘standard narrative’ of human…

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Setting Non-Negotiables: A Simple Way To Get Serious About Self-Improvement in 2015

Happy New Year from Chiang Mai, Thailand!  I originally posted this article over on my personal website, but I thought it would be appropriate to share here as well. If you’re suffering from retroactive jealousy, I believe that getting serious about owning your condition and overcoming it should be one of your “non-negotiables” for the…

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5 Books That Will Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy

NOTE: The links to these books contain affiliate links. If you make a purchase after clicking a link, I will receive a tiny commission (as in, 30 or 40 cents). This commission comes at no charge to you. When I was suffering from retroactive jealousy, I checked out a lot of books that I hoped might provide me with…

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Why Memories From Your Partner’s Past Don’t Really Exist

Occasionally I get e-mails from readers who are troubled by their partner’s past memories of former lovers. Some people are worried that their partner may look back fondly on their former lovers, or have vivid memories of past sexual encounters, and so on. I try to tell these readers that memories don’t exist the way they think they…

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VIDEO: Try This Quick And Easy Gratitude Exercise For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy

A few months ago I began a daily gratitude journal (which might sound hokey and new-agey, but bear with me…) The results were interesting to say the least. My experience with my gratitude journal prompted me to create a new gratitude-based exercise for sufferers of retroactive jealousy, which I recently discussed with students in my online…

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VIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”

Lately I’ve received a lot of emails from readers asking about what to do when/if they encounter what I call “trigger” people… A “trigger person” is someone associated with your partner’s past who brings up an intense emotional response in you. For most sufferers of retroactive jealousy, their main “trigger person” is their partner’s ex. For some of…

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Overcoming Feelings of Loneliness and Neediness in Relationships

NOTE: The following is an excerpt from my newly released e-book, Everyday Joy: Or, How To Be Happier and Healthier, and Party All The Time. Although this article does not deal with retroactive jealousy directly, it’s still very relevant for our purpose of discovering new perspectives, and exercises for letting go of jealousy, possessiveness, and neediness in relationships.…

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Get my new e-book for FREE on Amazon (for a limited time!)

Today’s the day! After several months of revisions, editing, mulling it over, crumpling up and tossing drafts into the wastebasket, walking over to the wastebasket and de-crumpling, etc. I’m pleased to say that my new book is finally done. Finito. Complete. And I’m really excited to share it with you. And until this Thursday (September 18),…

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