Is Sexual Jealousy Natural?

When dealing with retroactive jealousy it’s tempting to go down the intellectual rabbit hole in an attempt at arriving at some clarity, peace of mind, direction. Although I’ve argued that it can be counter-productive to proceed down this rabbit hole, there can, of course, be value in attempting to better understand the roots of your jealous feelings…

Continue Reading →


Setting Non-Negotiables: A Simple Way To Get Serious About Self-Improvement in 2015

Happy New Year from Chiang Mai, Thailand!  I originally posted this article over on my personal website, but I thought it would be appropriate to share here as well. If you’re suffering from retroactive jealousy, I believe that getting serious about owning your condition and overcoming it should be one of your “non-negotiables” for the…

Continue Reading →

retroactive jealousy

5 Books That Will Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy

NOTE: The links to these books contain affiliate links. If you make a purchase after clicking a link, I may receive a tiny commission. (As in, 30 cents tiny.) This commission comes at no charge to you. When I was suffering from retroactive jealousy, I checked out a lot of books that I hoped might provide me with…

Continue Reading →

Episode 105

Why Memories From Your Partner’s Past Don’t Really Exist

Occasionally I get e-mails from readers who are troubled by their partner’s past memories of former lovers. Some people are worried that their partner may look back fondly on their former lovers, or have vivid memories of past sexual encounters, and so on. I try to tell these readers that memories don’t exist the way they think they…

Continue Reading →


VIDEO: Try This Quick And Easy Gratitude Exercise For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy

A few months ago I began a daily gratitude journal (which might sound hokey and new-agey, but bear with me…) The results were interesting to say the least. My experience with my gratitude journal prompted me to create a new gratitude-based exercise for sufferers of retroactive jealousy, which I discussed with several coaching clients, and students…

Continue Reading →

trigger video

VIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”

Lately I’ve received a lot of emails from readers asking about what to do when/if they encounter what I call “trigger” people… A “trigger person” is someone associated with your partner’s past who brings up an intense emotional response in you. For most sufferers of retroactive jealousy, their main “trigger person” is their partner’s ex. For some of…

Continue Reading →


Overcoming Feelings of Loneliness and Neediness in Relationships

NOTE: The following is an excerpt from my newly released e-book, Everyday Joy: Or, How To Be Happier and Healthier, and Party All The Time. Although this article does not deal with retroactive jealousy directly, it’s still very relevant for our purpose of discovering new perspectives, and exercises for letting go of jealousy, possessiveness, and neediness in relationships.…

Continue Reading →


Get my new e-book for FREE on Amazon (for a limited time!)

Today’s the day! After several months of revisions, editing, mulling it over, crumpling up and tossing drafts into the wastebasket, walking over to the wastebasket and de-crumpling, etc. I’m pleased to say that my new book is finally done. Finito. Complete. And I’m really excited to share it with you. And until this Thursday (September 18),…

Continue Reading →


The Difference Between Normal Jealousy and Obsessive Jealousy

Let me clear something up right off the bat: I don’t like the word “normal.” What the hell is “normal” anyway? And who’s to say what’s “normal” and what’s not? And why do so many of us aspire to be a “normal” person? Sounds pretty boring to me. (I digress, but my point is it’s…

Continue Reading →


The Real Key To Getting Over Your Partner’s Past

Let’s say you want to build a house. So you go the bank and take out a loan. You buy a plot of land. You buy lumber, siding, concrete, etc. You find some house-building books and plans, and talk to others who’ve built houses similar to the one you envision for yourself. You spend hours sitting on your…

Continue Reading →

Page 1 of 8