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VIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”

Lately I’ve received a lot of emails from readers asking about what to do when/if they encounter what I call “trigger” people… A “trigger person” is someone associated with your partner’s past who brings up an intense emotional response in you. For most sufferers of retroactive jealousy, their main “trigger person” is their partner’s ex. For some of…

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Overcoming Feelings of Loneliness and Neediness in Relationships

NOTE: The following is an excerpt from my newly released e-book, Everyday Joy: Or, How To Be Happier and Healthier, and Party All The Time. Although this article does not deal with retroactive jealousy directly, it’s still very relevant for our purpose of discovering new perspectives, and exercises for letting go of jealousy, possessiveness, and neediness in relationships.…

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Get my new e-book for FREE on Amazon (for a limited time!)

Today’s the day! After several months of revisions, editing, mulling it over, crumpling up and tossing drafts into the wastebasket, walking over to the wastebasket and de-crumpling, etc. I’m pleased to say that my new book is finally done. Finito. Complete. And I’m really excited to share it with you. And until this Thursday (September 18),…

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The Difference Between Normal Jealousy and Obsessive Jealousy

Let me clear something up right off the bat: I don’t like the word “normal.” What the hell is “normal” anyway? And who’s to say what’s “normal” and what’s not? And why do so many of us aspire to be a “normal” person? Sounds pretty boring to me. (I digress, but my point is it’s…

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The Real Key To Getting Over Your Partner’s Past

Let’s say you want to build a house. So you go the bank and take out a loan. You buy a plot of land. You buy lumber, siding, concrete, etc. You find some house-building books and plans, and talk to others who’ve built houses similar to the one you envision for yourself. You spend hours sitting on your…

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Mailbag: “Getting over my girlfriend’s past and moving forward”

Earlier this week I received a kind and inspiring letter from a student taking my Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast video course. (Let’s call him Devon.) In the letter, Devon shared details of his lifelong struggles with retroactive jealousy, his relationship, and his determination to get over his girlfriend’s past, and get retroactive jealousy beat: Hi…

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Listen To This Free Guided Meditation For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy

Guided meditation is defined as a “form of meditation where an individual is verbally guided into a state of consciousness either by a person’s live voice or by a recording of a voice. This process and practice of meditation requires an individual to follow verbal instructions that teach the individual how to relax the entire body, clear the mind, concentrate…

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How To Stop Jealous Thoughts In Their Tracks

In my guidebook on overcoming retroactive jealousy, I emphasize that no thought can have power over you without your permission. When a jealous thought, or “mental movie” takes hold, some part of you is giving that thought power to disrupt your day. When you let an unwanted thought get to you, on some level you…

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What You Need To Know About Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy (Part II)

What follows is Part II of my Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy Manifesto. Read Part I here.   6.) There will be temporary setbacks as you work to overcome retroactive jealousy. Not “maybe” or “perhaps:” you will experience the odd bump on the road to overcoming retroactive jealousy. As I’ve written before: There will be periods of time…

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A Simple (Yet Effective!) Trick For Letting Go Of Jealous Thoughts

When people ask me the question “Is retroactive jealousy a form of obsessive compulsive disorder?” I generally skew the conversation toward possible solutions, rather than discussing theory. I do this because I think giving retroactive jealousy an intimidating label such as “OCD” makes it seem bigger, scarier, and harder to overcome. I’ve tried to avoid this…

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