The Three Different Types of Retroactive Jealousy: An Explainer

photo-1452457807411-4979b707c5be

It’s fair to estimate that the overwhelming majority of the global population has never encountered the term “retroactive jealousy.” Someone at a party asks about the projects I’m working on, and I’m consistently met with a confused “Huh?” when I bring it up. Even those of us who become familiar with the term “retroactive jealousy”…

Continue Reading →

What is Love?

photo-1459674401115-4b4c2d137148

Baby, don’t hurt me… (Apologies, couldn’t resist.) … Not long ago, one of the students taking my “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast” course wrote to me with a provocative question. Let’s call him “Ananda:” I was reading your blog post about 36 of your favourite quotes about jealousy, love, and relationships. The final quote,…

Continue Reading →

36 Of My Favourite Quotes About Jealousy, Love, and Relationships

quotes about jealousy

If you Google “quotes about jealousy,” you’ll receive over 700,000 (!) relevant search results. Needless to say, I am merely one voice in a global conversation that has been going on for many millennia about jealousy, love, and possessiveness in romantic relationships. As you might know by now, I read a lot about jealousy, love, and…

Continue Reading →

The Wim Hof Method for Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy

chapter-fifty-wim-hof-method-ice-bath7

**Please note: this site is not affiliated with Wim Hof, the Wim Hof Method, or the Joe Rogan Experience Podcast in any way. I’m just a fan. If there was a competition for the title of the world’s most interesting man, I’d wager that Wim Hof would rank among the frontrunners. Hof climbed Mount Everest and Mount Kilimanjaro…

Continue Reading →

“Living With A Jealous Husband:” What Retroactive Jealousy Feels Like On The Receiving End

photo-1423420634464-89006b3454a8

Over the past three years, I’ve put together many articles about what it feels like to suffer from retroactive jealousy (not to mention a guidebook and online course about how to overcome it). At the same time, I’ve written very little about what it feels like when you have a partner who suffers from retroactive jealousy. This is mostly due…

Continue Reading →

Listen To My Interview on Retroactive Jealousy for “The Art Of Charm” Podcast

maxresdefault

Recently I was interviewed for one of the most popular self-improvement podcasts in the world. The Art of Charm bills itself as “life coaching for the modern guy,” and their podcast features interviews with authors, coaches, psychologists, business leaders, and more. It’s one of the most enlightening and entertaining podcasts out there, and I felt both humbled…

Continue Reading →

Mailbag: When A Jealous Boyfriend Won’t Admit He’s Jealous

photo-1437623889155-075d40e2e59f

Today’s letter comes to us from a South African reader we’ll call “M,” whose jealous boyfriend won’t admit that he’s jealous: Dear Zachary, My boyfriend has retroactive jealousy and has admitted he plays movies in his head of what other guys have done to me and is he even to the point where he doesn’t want…

Continue Reading →

Use The 80-20 Principle To Overcome Retroactive Jealousy Twice As Fast

photo-1429277096327-11ee3b761c93

Over a century ago, an Italian economist unlocked one of the most powerful, universally-applicable principles for achieiving growth and success ever discovered. And it was all thanks to his garden. His pea pods, in particular. Unless you’re some kind of business person, entrepreneur, or economist, it’s likely that you haven’t heard of “the Pareto Principle.” In…

Continue Reading →

How Do You “Compete” With Your Boyfriend’s Ex?

photo-1421986527537-888d998adb74

When you hear the word “settling,” what comes to mind? “Settling down?” “Settling for someone?” “Settling in?” What? When I hear the word “settling,” I cringe. To me, “settling” in the context of relationships implies a choice to be OK with OK. To “settle” for mediocrity. To “settle” for someone who isn’t worthy of you. And, to…

Continue Reading →

“Chasing Amy” and Retroactive Jealousy

maxresdefault

For a condition that affects so many people around the world at one time or another, there aren’t many books, songs, and films that deal with retroactive jealousy. With some notable exceptions–John Lennon’s song “Jealous Guy,” Graham Greene’s novel The End of the Affair–it’s a topic that doesn’t get a lot of play in pop culture.…

Continue Reading →

Page 1 of 9