This video is long overdue…

I remember back in 2010, when author Dan Savage started the “It Gets Better” video campaign for LGBT youth. The videos were often very moving, intended to offer comfort, guidance, and support to LGBT youth dealing with the difficult situation of coming to terms with their own sexuality.

In recent years, I’ve often thought…

We need an “It Gets Better” video for retroactive jealousy sufferers.

Back when I suffered from retroactive jealousy, the internet wasn’t much help.

All I could find were nasty trolls in internet forums, clueless commenters offering vague and unhelpful truisms (“The past is the past!”) and others judging me for how I felt, insinuating that I was a bad person for struggling with my partner’s past.

No more.

I created this blog, wrote my guidebook, and created my video course “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast” to show people that

a) You aren’t a bad person just because you suffer from retroactive jealousy.


b) Overcoming retroactive jealousy is absolutely possible. You just need the right tools.

In today’s video, I want to explore both of these issues in a little more depth.

Watch the video below to learn more about my struggle with retroactive jealousy, why I do the work I do, and how any RJ sufferer can start moving forward.

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Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.