In case you hadn’t noticed, there aren’t a whole lot of books on retroactive jealousy.

When I was suffering from retroactive jealousy, I checked out a lot of books that I hoped might provide me with some relief.

Some were very good, others were just OK, and many others weren’t helpful at all.

It wasn’t until I realized that I had to stop intellectualizing my condition that I began to get over it. However, that isn’t to say that there aren’t some important books that helped me along the way, and in a certain sense, sped up my recovery.

I’ve included those books below, along with a couple others that other former sufferers of retroactive jealousy recommend.

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So, without any further ado, and in my less-than-humble opinion, here are the top-5 books that every retroactive jealousy sufferer should put on their reading list:

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1.) The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Tolle’s modern-day classic has sold about a zillion copies worldwide, and not without reason: there is no more accessible, engaging, and clearly-written introduction to “mindfulness,” or rather, the fine art of living in the present, rather than thoughts of the past or future.

As I outline in my video course, mindfulness, and meditation was a real game-changer for me when it came to overcoming retroactive jealousy. And while meditation alone won’t “cure” your retroactive jealousy, it’s a very important part of the solution.

If you’re interested in learning more about mindfulness, meditation, and how to live in the present, I strongly recommend you check out The Power of Now.

2.) The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts

In the 1950’s and 60’s, Alan Watts gained fame as the most effective Western interpreter of Zen Buddhism.

He wrote The Wisdom of Insecurity in an effort to make various Eastern principles on life, presence, and the illusion of ego more clear to the Western reader, and fifty years after its initial publication, it continues to inspire people all over the world to live a more peaceful life.

This was a crucial, eye-opening read for me as I was overcoming retroactive jealousy, and other ex-sufferers of RJ have told me that it was an equally important, liberating read for them. Many Amazon reviewers call the book “life-changing,” and I won’t disagree.

3.) Brain Lock by Jeffrey Schwartz

I didn’t read this while I was still suffering from RJ, but several readers have told me that they found this book very helpful for breaking free from the cycle of obsessive thinking. Schwartz is an expert on obsessive-compulsive disorder, and his techniques for overcoming OCD are now taught in universities throughout the world.

Highly recommended if you have a brain stuck on “loop.”

4.) Feeling Good by David Burns

Quite simply, the best book on overcoming depression, building self-esteem, and “re-training” your brain to have a more positive outlook on life yet published. Nothing else compares.

If you’re mired in RJ-related depression, you’d be wise to pick up Feeling Good. If there’s one knock against this book, it’s the length–at 736 pages, it may take you some time to get through, but it’s worthwhile, I promise you.

5.) Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy by Zachary Stockill

You probably knew this one was coming…

However, leaving aside the fact that I’m this book’s author, I’ve been told by hundreds of readers over the past couple of years that there is no better book out there for sufferers of retroactive jealousy.

I’ve received numerous e-mails, reviews, even phone calls from satisfied readers who express their gratitude for writing this book, and if you’re suffering from retroactive jealousy, I feel confident telling you that this is the most important step you can take toward getting your condition handled, and feeling better ASAP.


Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in The Huffington Post, PopMatters, Mic, HuffPost Live, and many other publications. I'm also the founder of RetroactiveJealousy.com, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.