“It created who she is:” Zan Perrion on accepting your partner’s past

In a recent blog post I wrote briefly about the impact Zan Perrion’s work has had on me. The famed Canadian dating coach, author, and speaker encourages men to celebrate women, appreciate the beauty around us, and to always look at the world with an eye toward having a good time. This was advice I badly needed when…

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Meditations: A Roman Emperor’s Guide to Letting Go of Jealousy and Possessiveness

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During a recent interview, I was asked to recommend just one book that every man should read. I chose to recommend a book I think everyone can benefit from, regardless of their gender: the classic Meditations by the ancient Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius. Marcus Aurelius is one of the fathers of Stoicism, the ancient school of Hellenistic philosophy The…

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36 Of My Favourite Quotes About Jealousy, Love, and Relationships

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If you Google “quotes about jealousy,” you’ll receive over 700,000 (!) relevant search results. Needless to say, I am merely one voice in a global conversation that has been going on for many millennia about jealousy, love, and possessiveness in romantic relationships. As you might know by now, I read a lot about jealousy, love, and…

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Listen To My Interview on Retroactive Jealousy for “The Art Of Charm” Podcast

Recently I was interviewed for one of the most popular self-improvement podcasts in the world. The Art of Charm bills itself as “life coaching for the modern guy,” and their podcast features interviews with authors, coaches, psychologists, business leaders, and more. It’s one of the most enlightening and entertaining podcasts out there, and I felt both humbled…

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Use The 80-20 Principle To Overcome Retroactive Jealousy Twice As Fast

Over a century ago, an Italian economist unlocked one of the most powerful, universally-applicable principles for achieiving growth and success ever discovered. And it was all thanks to his garden. His pea pods, in particular. Unless you’re some kind of business person, entrepreneur, or economist, it’s likely that you haven’t heard of “the Pareto Principle.” In…

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“Chasing Amy” and Retroactive Jealousy

For a condition that affects so many people around the world at one time or another, there aren’t many books, songs, and films that deal with retroactive jealousy. With some notable exceptions–John Lennon’s song “Jealous Guy,” Graham Greene’s novel The End of the Affair–it’s a topic that doesn’t get a lot of play in pop culture.…

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Is Sexual Jealousy Natural?

Dr. Christopher Ryan is the co-author of the 2010 bestseller Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, cited by many as one of the most important books on sex and sexuality to emerge in the past fifty years. From Wikipedia: In opposition to what the authors see as the ‘standard narrative’ of human…

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Retroactive Jealousy, and the Most Powerful Video on the Internet

Needless to say, there are a lot of videos on YouTube. It’s estimated that YouTube users watch approximately 6 billion hours of video per month. (Can you imagine how many working hours are lost to the site every year? Boggles the mind…) Surely, the majority of these videos feature cats doing silly things. But there are some…

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An Interview with Dating Coach Josh Sway on Retroactive Jealousy

Josh Sway is an American dating coach, and author of the e-book Sway Seduction: Master Online Dating. On his website you’ll find a wide range of articles on topics ranging from sex, to online dating, to weightlifting, and much more. After getting to know Josh a bit via email, I became curious about his take on…

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"Satellite of Love:" Lou Reed and Retroactive Jealousy

The esteemed American musician and Velvet Underground alumnus Lou Reed passed away recently at the age of 71. Aside from being a founding member of one of the most important rock and roll acts of the 1960’s, Reed enjoyed a prolific (if uneven) solo career that yielded a handful of excellent albums. The best among…

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