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Mailbag: Low Self-Esteem, Moroccan Hash, and Retroactive Jealousy
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Mailbag: Low Self-Esteem, Moroccan Hash, and Retroactive Jealousy

The other day I received a very honest letter from a reader named Dave from…

Mailbag: Dealing With Trigger People
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Mailbag: Dealing With Trigger People

A reader from Wales named Bryn wrote to me about a knockout named Becky, double…

Obsessive Jealousy Disorder: From Coping to Healing
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Obsessive Jealousy Disorder: From Coping to Healing

Obsessive jealousy disorder often feels a little like hell. If you're struggling with any kind…

Bumps in the Road, and What Success Actually Looks Like
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The Situation

Bumps in the Road, and What Success Actually Looks Like

ORJ reader Alan sent me an update about his ongoing struggle with retroactive jealousy: Ah…

An email from hell: letting the past determine the present
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An email from hell: letting the past determine the present

A reader named Matt wrote to me about invading his partner's privacy, his immense regret,…

Retroactive jealousy and sexual desire
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Retroactive jealousy and sexual desire

Recently, I received an email from a reader named Ryan in the UK concerning retroactive…

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