On Loving Women: An Open Letter to Male Jealousy Sufferers
When I started writing my book Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, and working on this blog, I was convinced that retroactive jealousy was almost exclusively a male problem. I was wrong. Today, after several years of conversing with RJ sufferers on a near-daily basis, I’d estimate that over forty percent of my readers and students are women. However, not all…
The Three Different Types of Retroactive Jealousy: An Explainer
It’s fair to estimate that the overwhelming majority of the global population has never encountered the term “retroactive jealousy.” Someone at a party asks about the projects I’m working on, and I’m consistently met with a confused “Huh?” when I bring it up. Even those of us who become familiar with the term “retroactive jealousy”…
The Wim Hof Method for Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy
**Please note: this site is not affiliated with Wim Hof, the Wim Hof Method, or the Joe Rogan Experience Podcast in any way. I’m just a fan. If there was a competition for the title of the world’s most interesting man, I’d wager that Wim Hof would rank among the frontrunners. Hof climbed Mount Everest and Mount Kilimanjaro…
Use The 80-20 Principle To Overcome Retroactive Jealousy Twice As Fast
Over a century ago, an Italian economist unlocked one of the most powerful, universally-applicable principles for achieiving growth and success ever discovered. And it was all thanks to his garden. His pea pods, in particular. Unless you’re some kind of business person, entrepreneur, or economist, it’s likely that you haven’t heard of “the Pareto Principle.” In…
Sleep: Your Secret Weapon For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy
About a year ago, one of my closest friends became a father for the first time. And ever since, between running his own business, being forced to travel regularly, trying to maintain a healthy relationship with his partner, and managing the many demands of fatherhood, the guy really doesn’t get a lot of sleep. In fact, he recently began experimenting…
How Being Vulnerable Can Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy
A few months ago I broke my face. Well, not my whole face, but a crucial part of my face, anyway. One wrong turn on a motorbike in Thailand, and I ended up fracturing my nasal bone, leaving a healthy (though apparently fixable, and thus non-permanent) scar on the right side of my nose. I’m thankful that…
5 Books That Will Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy
NOTE: The links to these books contain affiliate links. If you make a purchase after clicking a link, I will receive a tiny commission (as in, 30 or 40 cents). This commission comes at no charge to you. When I was suffering from retroactive jealousy, I checked out a lot of books that I hoped might provide me with…
VIDEO: Try This Quick And Easy Gratitude Exercise For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy
A few months ago I began a daily gratitude journal (which might sound hokey and new-agey, but bear with me…) The results were interesting to say the least. My experience with my gratitude journal prompted me to create a new gratitude exercise for sufferers of retroactive jealousy, which I recently discussed with students in my online…
VIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”
I’ve received a lot of emails from readers asking about what to do if/when they encounter what I call “trigger” people. A “trigger person” is someone associated with your partner’s past who brings up an intense emotional response in you. For most sufferers of retroactive jealousy, their main “trigger person” is their partner’s ex. For some of you…
An Easy Way To Stop Jealous Thoughts In Their Tracks
In my guidebook on overcoming retroactive jealousy, I emphasize that no thought can have power over you without your permission. When a jealous thought, or “mental movie” takes hold, some part of you is giving that thought power to disrupt your day. When you let an unwanted thought get to you, on some level you…
