In today’s video, I’m going to discuss the danger of the Red Pill online men’s movement.

Read or watch below to learn about the danger of The Red Pill.

Zachary Stockill: I receive a lot of comments from men who are at risk of becoming what I call a “red pill ideologue.” Today, I’m going to explain how you can avoid becoming a ‘red pill ideologue’.

First off, for the people who haven’t heard that term before, the red pill refers to a specific section of the internet that is largely concerned with trying to figure out male-female dynamics from a largely masculine or male-sympathetic point of view.

In simpler terms, many men perceive that women control and exert influence over dating and relationship advice, guided by feminist views.

As a result, there’s a significant presence of men online offering a very different perspective that tends to support men’s viewpoints.

A lot of the red pill takes certain ideas from evolutionary psychology and relies on that school of research to inform much of their thinking regarding mating and male-female dynamics.

Now, this might be a controversial opinion, but I don’t think that all of the red pill is irredeemablem or it’s all nonsense, as many people do.

There are a lot of ideas in the red pill that I’m 100% on board with, such as:

When men start a relationship, they need to protect what they own because many courts in the Western world usually don’t favor them.

Men should be very careful and picky about who they let into their lives for the long term. It’s important for men to have clear standards.

I fully support these ideas and have shared them on this channel. However, I think that strict ideologues cause unnecessary division and polarization in much of the Western world today.

Whether it’s extreme feminism, extreme misogyny, extreme red pill beliefs, or extreme political views, I believe that rigid and extremist ideologies contribute significantly to the problems in the world today.

When people become obsessed or consumed by an ideology, they’re often completely unreceptive to any information that contradicts any part of that ideology.

So, the most common example is politics. People locked into a certain political worldview always exhibit this behavior.

They’re completely unnuanced in their thinking and unreceptive to any piece of information that might challenge their prevailing political ideology.

They often attack other people, and call each other names.

There’s a lot of ad hominem arguing in a lot of these ideologically based communities. And you see this a lot in the red pill.

It’s funny; I have a friend who’s a coach as well, in a similar field to me, and he’s seen some of my videos in which I’ve talked about the red pill. And he said to me:

‘Zach, are you sure you want to do that?’

He has a point in saying: those guys are extreme. I understand his perspective since many self-proclaimed red pill followers are incredibly insecure.

It’s shocking how they react with personal attacks whenever someone questions their beliefs, often responding with unrelated remarks to the challenge.

In the discussions, they frequently repeat certain buzzwords in their comments.

On my YouTube channel, it’s common to see comments from men using these specific terms, indicating they’ve recently embraced the red pill philosophy and are acting as keyboard warriors, attacking various YouTube channels without much thought.

And I think that’s rule number one of avoiding becoming an ideologue of any kind whatsoever:

Ideologues are born when they convince themselves that this person or this school or this book or whatever has all of the answers when it comes to politics, when it comes to dating, when it comes to just about anything in life.

Ideologues are born when you become unreceptive to outside information.

And I think also ideologues are born when you start lacking curiosity when it comes to how the world works, and how you’re accumulating information.

So remember that no one has all the answers to anything. I certainly don’t have all of the answers when it comes to retroactive jealousy.

I believe I have quite a few answers, if I may say so myself. However, I don’t claim to know everything. In politics, no one has all the answers.

Similarly, when it comes to understanding the universe, how the world operates, and everything else, no one knows it all.

I watch many documentaries and am especially fascinated by cults, though I’m not sure why. The psychology behind cults intrigues me, and a recurring theme in all cults is a leader claiming to have all the answers.

They’ll say, “Follow me, and everything will be great,” or “I wrote this book, and it contains all you need to know. Anything contradicting this book is wrong.”

Ideologues are born when you start losing creativity, and become unreceptive to outside information.

I also think you can avoid becoming a red-pill ideologue by remembering that:

‘Men and women are different, but we’re not a different species.’

Danger Of The Red Pill

That’s where many people who follow the red pill ideology make mistakes.

I’m the first to acknowledge that men and women are quite different. Our motivations, turn-ons, reasons for entering or ending relationships, and mating strategies often vary significantly. I wholeheartedly agree with all of this.

Nevertheless, I observe that many red pill thinkers view women as if they’re mysterious beings, untrustworthy, always scheming, and entirely different from us in every way.

They believe women have a completely foreign mindset that’s incomprehensible to men, and I disagree with this perspective.

Men and women are different, absolutely, but we’re not a different species.

And it’s crucial to remember this if you want to steer clear of adopting dangerous red pill beliefs.

Many red pill concepts draw insights from evolutionary psychology, which can provide valuable knowledge about how men and women work, how men and women mate, and all the rest.

However, keep in mind that there are limits to this approach. So, I’m trying to add some nuance to this way of thinking. Men and women are indeed different, but we’re still the same species.

While evolutionary psychology is useful, we shouldn’t forget that we’re mammals, part of the animal kingdom.

We’re also the dominant species for a reason. We possess a highly developed cerebral cortex, enabling us to create things like the internet and explore space—abilities not found in the animal kingdom.

Therefore, it’s vital to recognize that we are indeed mammals, and we can gain valuable insights about male and female mating behavior from the natural world.

But remember that that line of thinking can only go so far. So you can’t look to evolutionary psychology or evolutionary biology for all of the answers about male and female human mating strategies.

Also, remember that everyone on the internet presents some kind of “front.” And yes, that means me, too.

If you were to meet me in person, I don’t have quite as much energy, perhaps, as I present in these videos.

I’m somewhat distinct from the person you see on your computer screen. And, by the way, let me share a little secret; these red pill individuals are identical in this regard.

Now, I’m not going to say any names, but I have met several of these guys associated with the Red Pill in person.

I believe many individuals who passionately support them on social media and consider these guys their heroes would genuinely be surprised if they could closely witness their lives.

Danger Of The Red Pill

I think many Red Pill followers would also be surprised if they could closely examine the wives and girlfriends of these Red Pill enthusiasts…

I’m not trying to be mean, but what I’m saying here is everyone on the internet is presenting a front, including a lot of these Red Pill guys.

Be careful who you choose as your hero and remember that anyone you’re idolizing or worshipping on the internet is presenting a front.

If you wholeheartedly praise and defend them without knowing the whole story, you’re missing out on the complete picture. So, there you go. I could continue, but I hope this gives some of you a bit of food for thought.

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Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of RetroactiveJealousy.com, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.