In today’s video, we’re going to learn more about overcoming retroactive jealousy.

I’m going to answer the question: “How long does it take to beat retroactive jealousy?”

Zachary Stockill: There’s no general answer to this question because there are so many factors involved. Everyone’s different. Everyone’s dealing with retroactive jealousy to different extents.

There’s a whole bunch of factors which I don’t know about from your own life.

I don’t know your partner and your mental health history. I can’t answer this question definitively for everyone. But what I can do is offer a few conclusions and observations that I’ve realized.

how long does it take to beat retroactive jealousy

Through many years working on this issue, the number one factor involved in overcoming retroactive jealousy is the amount of work that you’re willing to put in.

So, how long does it really take to beat retroactive jealousy?

Basically speaking, I always tell people, if you work hard enough, you’re really dedicated, committed, and you do the right things, you bounce back from the bumps in the road.

You don’t let them get you down. You will solve this problem, you really can.

This isn’t just me, you can go on my website, and you’ll find dozens and dozens, probably hundreds at this point of testimonials. Emails from students who take my online course.

People who read my book, people who have put in the work, and beat this problem and put it behind them

So, if you put in the work, you will overcome this problem.

Now, how long it takes you to do that? Again, it depends largely on the amount of work you’re willing to put in. But we’re all different.

For some people, maybe a month or two. For some, maybe six months.

how long does it take to beat retroactive jealousy

A student in my online course named Zachary, not me, made major progress. About a week and a half into the course, he was already feeling great. He started to bounce back and put a lot of those demons at rest.

So there’s a lot of factors involved. But the number one thing that I would stress is, you need to work hard. And, if you’re willing to work hard, you can make major progress in as little as a week or two.

But, there will be bumps in the road. And then you might have the occasional hour, maybe even a day where the old patterns threaten reemerge and you get discouraged.

And you’ll think, “Oh, God, this problem’s back”.

They happen to all of us. And the key there is just to bounce back. These bumps in the road are inevitable, and I can power through this.

So basically, if you stay positive, you work hard and you remain committed, you will beat this issue.

Furthermore, you can make major progress probably a lot quicker than you think. But it takes work and dedication.

It takes owning this issue and a real commitment to beat this.

Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.