One of the best parts of my job is waking up to retroactive jealousy success stories in my email inbox.

Recently, I received a moving and inspiring new RJ success story from a former student of mine named Josie. Josie’s story is the subject of today’s blog post.

Josie struggled with painful, relentless intrusive thoughts about her girlfriend’s past for several months. And then, around a month ago, she signed up for my flagship online course, “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.”

And today, she’s a new woman.

Read Josie’s story in her own words [screenshot posted below]:

I have been with my beautiful girlfriend for 8 months now, and it’s very safe to say that this is the first time I have ever truly been in love.

As most retroactive jealousy sufferers know, true love is often what ignites these unpleasant and scary emotions… and I was no exception. There would be moments here and there in the relationship when little details were mentioned and I’d feel extremely anxious out of nowhere.

Somehow, I was often able to get through the anxiety and move on. 

It wasn’t until 6 months into the relationship (late December 2022) where my retroactive jealousy was triggered, and there it all truly started.

My girlfriend opened up to me about something, which triggered everything all at once. Every single little detail she told me about her past came flooding back, when before, these things were relatively easy to get over and forget.

I had no idea what was coming my way, but that’s where my personal idea of hell started.

For the entirety of January into February, I was in a constant state of anxiety and depression.

I went many days without eating, and could barely leave the house. I stayed in bed most days and just slept because it was the only time I could escape my thoughts. The mental movies, the excessive questions, the curiosity, questioning her morals and values… the retroactive jealousy was relentless.

josie's story

This led to my girlfriend feeling completely ashamed, upset and not secure anymore in our relationship. She would explain to me that she didn’t know what to expect day by day… would I be okay, or would I be a mess? Would I be stable or have a question to ask… which would only lead to more questions?

The guilt I felt was strong, but my curiosity was stronger. 

I knew I had to do something. I didn’t want to lose the most amazing person I’ve ever met. 

Since the very beginning, I always knew that losing her would hurt far more than anything retroactive jealousy could throw at me. So I decided to take real action.

No more watching endless YouTube videos about RJ, no more reading comments or online forums trying to relate to others… I was at my breaking point. I knew I had to buy the course.

What initially sparked my drive to beat this was the fact that my girlfriend said she would walk away if I asked anymore questions. She was done with it. I made her feel horrible about herself. I get it. And guess what? I’ve never asked a question since. 

Since taking the course, I feel like a brand new person.

Zachary heavily emphasises that you can’t go into this with a victim mentality… It was a hard transition to make since all I did was feel sorry for myself for well over a month.

But I was excited to start, and so I said “okay!”, and put in the necessary work that I had to. I did all the exercises provided and took them very seriously.

I knew I wanted to beat this, so I wasn’t going to let anything stop me.

I never would’ve believed you if you told me I’d be where I am right now compared to where I was in January.

The difference is astounding.

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I am more self assured, calm, and happy in my relationship, possibly more than ever before.

The thoughts have no power anymore. If I have a silly question, I bat it away.

Some days I wake up with no RJ thoughts at all, which I never thought was possible.

There are many benefits to taking the course “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast”, but the most crucial to me was realising that this is about me, and personal development, not my partner!

Once it truly dawned on me that this was my problem, and to stop putting blame on my partner, it allowed me to take full ownership of it and do all the work necessary.

Without the course and Zachary’s help, I’d still be in the same retroactive jealousy rut.

How do I know this? Because there are so many things I learned in the course that I never learned anywhere else… things that truly changed my life for the better.

The beautiful thing about RJ is that it forces you to become a better you, so take this as an opportunity to grow! Don’t let it rule your life!

I knew I wanted to change, but I was lost. I didn’t know how or where to start… The course will guide you in the right direction.

There are a plethora of exercises, valuable information, new perspectives, helpful tools, and more to discover when you take the course.

If you’re on the fence about signing up, use me as inspiration… I am truly happier than ever because of it, and my relationship is thriving.

Not only will it improve your relationship, but your sense of self too. There is simply no way you can take the course in its entirety, and not come out a better and stronger person. 

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Josie’s story is a remarkable tale of speedy transformation.

To all of the retroactive jealousy sufferers reading this, know this: you are not alone.

And if you’re ready to join me, Josie, and a small army of retroactive jealousy survivors, we’d love to have you.

Click here to join Josie and thousands of other retroactive jealousy success cases, and learn more about “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.”

Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.