ManTalks Is a Website to Share Stories From “Men Making a Difference.”

This week I was invited to appear on the ManTalks Podcast to share my story, and talk about retroactive jealousy.


If you’re a man (or woman, for that matter) currently struggling with retroactive jealousy, I really think you’ll want to listen.

In this free podcast, I share some key perspectives and strategies for identifying and confronting retroactive jealousy, and moving forward. (I also talk a bit about my other writing, meeting a former Beatle (!), as well as my new podcast.)

Take a listen to the interview below:

Some key takeaways:

[2:20] One of my defining moments

[5:05] What I do

[4:50] What ‘retroactive jealousy’ means

[7:00] My experience with retroactive jealousy

[9:35] Men tend to have extreme double standards towards women who have done the same sort of sexual activities men have done in the past.

[10:05] A lot of men try to figure out a woman’s past to see if it’s in line with their ideal values.

[11:40] Stop talking with your partner about their past – for now. Here’s why.

[13:00] What do you value in your relationship and what do you value in your partner?

[15:30] Own your problem. This is not your partner’s problem.

[17:40] Some men might believe that if they hooked up with an angel of a woman, then their relationship would be so much better. Of course, this is just not true.

[19:10] There’s a lot of shame around jealousy.

[19:15] What can men do to open up this conversation?

[20:10] The problem doesn’t resolve on its own. You have to step in and do the work.

You can also find the podcast on iTunes (I’m episode 53).

Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.