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Zachary Stockill: So I am increasingly a fan of routine. Maybe it’s just a function of getting older. But the older I get, the more I find it beneficial to have some more routines in my life.

Now I’m still kind of an artistic, creative type of personality, so there are limits to this. I can’t deal with too much structure. However, setting some basic frameworks for the day, I find really helpful. It helps me become more productive, keeps my mind very relaxed.

And over the years, the more I think about it, I really think it is one of the reasons why I’ve been able to keep retroactive obsessive jealousy at bay for so long.

You’ll find a lot of information online about how important a morning routine is.

And in today’s video, I’m going to present something that’s a little different, a little different maybe than what you’ve found before.

This is a morning routine for overcoming jealousy.

If you’re finding yourself consumed by intrusive thoughts about your partner’s past, relentless curiosity, anything like that, I think you’ll find this morning routine for overcoming jealousy very helpful.

So my first suggestion, when you wake up in the morning, is simply to drink a large glass of water.

Now you might hear that and think that has nothing to do with retroactive jealousy or obsessive jealousy or anything like that. And that’s true on the face of it.

However, we become very dehydrated at night, and you set yourself up to have a peaceful, calm, productive day if you hydrate first thing in the morning.

So I’ve been doing this for, god, I don’t know how long, 15, 20 years, something like that, a long time. As soon as you wake up in the morning, drink a large glass of water.

I would suggest your very next step, right after you drink your water is to find a quiet place, preferably one where you can be alone.

Set a timer on your phone, use an app, whatever you need, and practice some kind of meditation for around five minutes.

This does not have to be complicated. If you’ve found a particular app or a particular method that’s working for you, that’s great. I have a lot of experience with different types of meditation.

I have found Anapana meditation as well as Zazen to be enormously helpful. But for example, this morning, I meditated for five minutes, just a very simple breathing practice sitting on my couch over there.

Doesn’t have to be complicated, but if you can, eliminate all distractions and plan out five minutes so you can meditate.

Right after you meditate, review your retroactive jealousy or obsessive jealousy affirmations.

Now, I recorded a whole video. I don’t know, three or four weeks ago, on creating affirmations specifically for overcoming jealousy, overcoming retroactive jealousy.

Very important you get clear about your affirmations get clear about your goals. And this does not have to take long. This can take one or two minutes.

Just simply pull out your form that you’ve written all your affirmations down on. Read them out.

You can either read them silently in your head or if you really want to start the day on a positive note, you can actually say them aloud. Hopefully, you’re alone, again, and simply read and reflect on your affirmations.

And as you’re reading your affirmations, try to imagine your body, how it’s actually going to feel once you’ve reached your goals, once you’ve actually overcome retroactive or obsessive jealousy. Try to imagine how it’s actually going to feel when you eventually reached that goal.

Finally, write down three things that you are grateful for.

You’ve probably seen, there’s been a lot of press lately and a lot of information about gratitude journals, practicing gratitude, all this.

But when I think about it, back when I was struggling with retroactive jealousy, I made a habit of this, and I think it made a big difference. It really helped.

You can write down three things you’re grateful for in some kind of notebook or bullet point form.

And this can be as simple as, if you’re a coffee snob like me, I’m about to drink an absolutely fantastic cup of coffee. Or my partner and I made love last night. It was absolutely fantastic.

Or I get to do work today that I find personally meaningful and fulfilling, or I’m so grateful to have my kids, or whatever it is. It can be anything.

It can range from small things like coffee to the love of your children. But write down three things you’re grateful for every morning.

So as you can see, this morning routine for overcoming jealousy not have to take very long.

A lot of people, I think, are intimidated by the idea of coming up with morning routines because they think it’s going to take an hour or two at the beginning of your day. It doesn’t have to be long, and it doesn’t have to be complicated either.

But hopefully, you find this helpful. Hopefully, you put this into motion. And if you do find this helpful, be sure to let me know. I’d really like to hear from you.

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Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.