I recently received a moving email from a student taking my “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast” online course.

Let’s call him ‘James.’

I hope my sharing it with all of you doesn’t seem like a humblebrag, although it probably will.

Of course, I’m proud of my work, but at the end of the day, I want to prove to retroactive jealousy sufferers that yes, no matter how hopeless your current situation might feel, if you take the necessary steps it really does get better.

And a small army of retroactive jealousy survivors, including James, will tell you the same thing.

Here’s the email from James (screenshot below):

I had suffered from RJOCD for decades.

Of course for most of those years the term retroactive jealousy didn’t exist and nobody knew what it truly was.

And if you tried to talk to someone about it the common response would be “it’s in the past, just get over it”.  Well that statement to someone with RJ is the same as telling a person with severe clinical depression to “just cheer up…”

A little over a year ago I had a major plummet down the RJ rabbit hole. The worst ever.

Those who have not suffered from this will never understand, but those who have experienced it will understand when I say it was the worst thing I have ever endured in my many years of life, and I’ve been through a lot.

Severe anxiety, insomnia, depression, emotional turmoil. At one point I was so bad I’d have preferred to just go to sleep and never wake up rather than endure one more day of the thoughts and visions I was having relentlessly.

After researching the internet, and realizing the many blogs and random posts were NOT where I wanted to find the answers I was looking for, I discovered Zachary Stockill.

I ordered his book, received it in a couple of days and knew I had found what I was looking for. However when I was done with the book I felt I needed more of what Zachary was offering.

That’s when I signed up for Zachary’s online course Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.

This course was enlightening and encouraging while forcing me to be introspective and do some serious work on myself at the same time.

When I first read his words “Retroactive Jealousy Is A Gift” I balked at the idea. But his course, his videos, his teachings proved that statement to be absolutely true.

I am now so much more confident, I am living in the present instead of the past, am so much more calm as a person and enjoy continually working on being a better me.

It’s a tough road but the end result is so worth it. I am in such a different place in life now, a place a year ago I couldn’t even imagine ever being in.

I even ended up taking Zachary’s follow up online course The Overcoming Jealousy Blueprint which I found to be a great addition to the original course.

In addition to the work I have done with my therapist, Zachary’s work has been the foundation of my recovery and I don’t say that lightly.

There are others out there on You Tube and such trying to do what Zachary has done but the best way I can respond to that is Zachary is often imitated but never duplicated. He is the pioneer that got Retroactive Jealousy on the map and his work, which is so much more than just a product, is heads and tails above the others out there.

His course will hold you accountable, will show you how you alone own your RJ, and for those willing to do the work will show you the way out. I cannot recommend this course or the man behind it enough.

Thank you, Zachary, for making such a huge difference in my life.

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Thank-you, James.

Click here for more information about my introductory course on overcoming retroactive jealousy, “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.”


Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of RetroactiveJealousy.com, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.