Sleep: Your Secret Weapon For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy
About a year ago, one of my closest friends became a father for the first time. And ever since, between running his own business, being forced to travel regularly, trying to maintain a healthy relationship with his partner, and managing the many demands of fatherhood, the guy really doesn’t get a lot of sleep. In fact, he recently began experimenting…
How Being Vulnerable Can Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy
A few months ago I broke my face. Well, not my whole face, but a crucial part of my face, anyway. One wrong turn on a motorbike in Thailand, and I ended up fracturing my nasal bone, leaving a healthy (though apparently fixable, and thus non-permanent) scar on the right side of my nose. I’m thankful that…
Retroactive Jealousy Is Not (Always) The Same As Conflicting Values
Since I launched this site two years ago, hundreds of people have written to me asking the same question in different ways. That question goes something like this… “My partner is amazing in every other regard, but I can’t seem to get past their past relationships/sexual history. Do you think I should try to work through this,…
“I Can’t Stop Stalking My Wife’s Past On Facebook:” Retroactive Jealousy And Social Media
It isn’t fun to be struggling with your wife’s past… And, in many ways, there’s never been a better, or worse, time to be dealing with retroactive jealousy. Unlike decades earlier, with the advent of the internet the average RJ sufferer can find a wealth of useful information on the topic. While it’s true that…
Is Sexual Jealousy Natural?
Dr. Christopher Ryan is the co-author of the 2010 bestseller Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, cited by many as one of the most important books on sex and sexuality to emerge in the past fifty years. From Wikipedia: In opposition to what the authors see as the ‘standard narrative’ of human…
Setting Non-Negotiables: A Simple Way To Get Serious About Self-Improvement in 2015
Happy New Year from Chiang Mai, Thailand! I originally posted this article over on my personal website, but I thought it would be appropriate to share here as well. If you’re suffering from retroactive jealousy, I believe that getting serious about owning your condition and overcoming it should be one of your “non-negotiables” for the…
5 Books That Will Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy
NOTE: The links to these books contain affiliate links. If you make a purchase after clicking a link, I will receive a tiny commission (as in, 30 or 40 cents). This commission comes at no charge to you. When I was suffering from retroactive jealousy, I checked out a lot of books that I hoped might provide me with…
Why Memories From Your Partner’s Past Don’t Really Exist
Occasionally I get e-mails from readers who are troubled by their partner’s memories of former lovers. Some people are worried that their partner may look back fondly on their former lovers, or have vivid memories of past sexual encounters, and so on. I try to tell these readers that memories don’t exist the way they think they…
VIDEO: Try This Quick And Easy Gratitude Exercise For Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy
A few months ago I began a daily gratitude journal (which might sound hokey and new-agey, but bear with me…) The results were interesting to say the least. My experience with my gratitude journal prompted me to create a new gratitude exercise for sufferers of retroactive jealousy, which I recently discussed with students in my online…
VIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”
I’ve received a lot of emails from readers asking about what to do if/when they encounter what I call “trigger” people. A “trigger person” is someone associated with your partner’s past who brings up an intense emotional response in you. For most sufferers of retroactive jealousy, their main “trigger person” is their partner’s ex. For some of you…
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