Watch this: “The wake doesn’t drive the ship”

I am a huge fan of the late English philosopher Alan Watts. Of the many great teachers I have encountered, few have made such a profound impact on the way I see the world, and — on my better days — the way I try to live my life. Fewer still have provided such immense…

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Retroactive jealousy can be interesting.

Life is nothing but movement; change; progression; flux. Be it from one day to the next, one room to the next, the hands of the clock on the wall, or the passing of cars on the highway, our lives are defined by motion. As I write about in my guidebook, human beings are much like whirlpools;…

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Retroactive jealousy, friends with benefits, and Facebook

A reader named Alan from the United States wrote to me about his lingering retroactive jealousy, and his girlfriend’s lingering connection to an ex-friend with benefits: Hey Zach, I’ve read your book and I think it’s helped me come to some kind of epiphany! Well that’s always good. It’s great at really getting you to think and…

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Retroactive jealousy and sexual desire

Recently, I received an email from a reader named Ryan in the UK concerning retroactive jealousy, and reduced libido: As I’m working on my issues my girlfriend has noticed that sometimes when my RJ is at its worst I don’t perform with her at my best and also we don’t have sex as much –…

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Watch this: “Ex-Boyfriend” by Lil’ Dicky [NSFW]

Because it’s Friday and spring is in the air (at least here in Canada) and love is all around us if we are brave enough to choose it, I thought I’d share something fun. Although I will warn sufferers of retroactive jealousy with intense emotional triggers/responses to sex scenes, etc. to avoid watching this video,…

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"Everything is amazing, and nobody’s happy."

As usual, some profound insight from one of the funniest humans on the planet, comedian Louis CK: A few years ago, upon initially seeing this bit on Louis’ special Hilarious, I immediately drew a connection to my own struggles with retroactive jealousy. I live in one of the richest countries on Earth (Canada represent), and…

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Read this: Jiddu Krishnamurti on observing emotions

When you are able to cultivate the ability to simply observe a thought or emotion as it arises, and then watch it fade away peacefully, you suddenly become very powerful. As I write in my guidebook, overcoming retroactive jealousy requires that we learn to observe thoughts and emotions without becoming attached to them. The inspiration…

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You are not alone.

If there is one thing I can say with utmost certainty to any sufferer of retroactive jealousy, it is this: You are not alone. In the few short weeks this site has been active, and my book has been for sale, I have been fortunate enough to connect with a wide variety of people dealing…

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Listen to this: "Still Crazy After All These Years"

As I write about in my guidebook, music can have a serious impact on how we feel, and how we think. In one of the chapters in Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, I recommend that you take your listening habits more seriously, and begin surrounding yourself with, as one might put it, “good vibrations,” rather than sad…

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3 Reasons Why Your Retroactive Jealousy is Based on a Lie

Over the past couple of weeks, several people have asked me to expand on why, exactly, their retroactive jealousy is based on a lie. Regardless of their particular circumstances, here are the top-3 reasons why it is so: . 1.) The past doesn’t exist. This is the big one. I’m going to ask you to…

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