In today’s video, I had a revealing and inspiring conversation with Simon, a retroactive jealousy survivor.
Read or watch below to hear Simon’s retroactive jealousy testimonial, and how’s he handling his retroactive jealousy with the help of my online course, “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.”
Zachary Stockill: Okay, Simon, first off, could you just talk a little bit about where you were at with retroactive jealousy before investing in my course?
Simon: Zach, I’m in my late 40s and I’ve been experiencing what turned out to be “retroactive jealousy” for the better part of 30 years, from my late teenage years. And when I first felt retroactive jealousy coming on, I did go and get some therapy back then, but nothing really worked.
It was the pre-internet age, so there was no real research I could do. I kind of just thought it was a maturity thing, something I would grow out of. Roll forward 30 years, it never actually got better. After one particularly bad episode six months or so ago, I thought: “You know what, this is not right, I’m getting far too old for immaturity now”. So I started to do a bit more research and I went, “Oh my goodness, this is a real thing with a real name”. And that research led me to you, your YouTube channel, and your course. So that’s kind of my journey over 30 years.
Zachary: And what were some of the things that you would do as a result of your retroactive jealousy when it was really bad?
Simon: The only thing I was able to do over those years was to try to suppress it.
To try to push it into the corners of my mind, not face into it. I would have meltdowns and episodes, and my attitude towards partners, when I was in relationships was not great. Nothing I was proud of, and it wasn’t me either. It was not who I was in my normal day-to-day life. I had really no skills or knowledge of what was happening, and no skills to be able to deal with it in a healthy, productive way.
Zachary: Were you ever afraid that your relationship was going to end because of retroactive jealousy?
Simon: Absolutely. So I think it would have affected some of my earlier relationships when I was in my late teens, early twenties. And certainly, in my marriage, it puts pressure on my marriage in lots of different ways. And I think if I hadn’t done anything about it, it would lead to a long and unhappy marriage over the rest of my life, or we probably would have just both said, “Look, it’s not really working out”. I think there was a sense of at least a happy marriage at risk or a marriage altogether at risk.
Zachary: Maybe you could tell me a little bit now about your experience of my course, “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast.”
Simon: So, obviously, discovering this after 30 years is a real thing, it was a bit overwhelming.
So that period of time, I was quite emotional and I really wanted to do something about it. I then bought your audiobook, and the course, and in many ways, I haven’t looked back since. I apply your techniques regularly. And I refer back to some of the modules that really resonated with me quite a bit. So it made a really big difference in my life and my marriage, and my wife’s life as well. So it’s been great.
Zachary: Maybe you could tell me just a little more about that. How would you compare your feelings now to before you found my course?
Simon: It’s a world of difference and I’ve still got some work to do. I think I’ve said that I’m six months from starting your course to where I am now. Having said that, though, I think there’s a calmness and stillness in my general day-to-day life and feelings around relationships, wife, etc., that I’ve never felt before.
I was always on edge, always on guard, waiting for this feeling which I didn’t really know what it was, which turned out to be retroactive jealousy, just lurking in the background, just kind of potentially souring generally happy moments or still moments. That’s largely dissipated.
There are still moments that I need to apply the techniques that I’ve learned through your course, and they work really well. It allows me to really enjoy my relationship in a way that I hadn’t been able to do in a consistent way up until buying your course and doing your course. That’s made a big difference in my life.
Zachary: That’s great to hear. Simon. And finally, what would you tell anyone who’s on the fence about getting my course?
Simon: So obviously, I’ve done your course. So I would say, “Do it. absolutely. don’t hesitate”. Having said that though I do understand why there might be some reticence from anyone that’s considering. But I would say do two things. Read and watch as many of your testimonials as you need to, the weight of numbers, and the messaging that you will get through those testimonials will certainly convince you that this is a quality course.
Do a bit of homework, but I think pretty quickly if you do that, you’ll be convinced that this is a course that will help you with your life, to control and eradicate your retroactive jealousy.