In today’s video, I’m going to give you 5 tips to ensure that you’re going to struggle with retroactive jealousy forever.

Read or watch below to discover how to keep struggling with retroactive jealousy.

Zachary Stockill: On this channel, I give you all kinds of exercises and perspectives and practices to overcome retroactive jealousy as soon as humanly possible.

I have literally hundreds of free articles in addition to all my online courses, books, and audio series. I put out a lot of content, I think it’s fair to say, on how to beat retroactive jealousy for good. 

But I realized I’m missing part of my audience. So if you want to stay stuck struggling with retroactive jealousy forever, I’m going to give you five tips that will ensure you’re going to struggle with retroactive jealousy forever. 

Okay, retroactive Jealousy is a pretty heavy topic. So, let’s have some fun. 

Do these five things to ensure that you struggle with retroactive jealousy forever.

So, number one, ask your partner endless questions about their past, every chance you get.

The more granular and insignificant the detail, the better. Pester them with questions throughout the day. Accumulate all kinds of absolutely useless knowledge, and useless visuals, and wake them up in the middle of the night to ask them more details about their past.

As long as you keep doing this over time, and you stay committed to this, I promise you, you’ll be struggling with retroactive jealousy forever. 

My second tip, if you want to struggle with retroactive jealousy for the rest of your life… and this is a big one. 

Make sure you don’t own this problem at all. 

struggling with retroactive jealousy

Put this problem on your partner to solve 100%. Buy into the fallacious myth that they can solve this problem for you if you just get a little bit more reassurance from them, or they write you a love poem about how much better you are than their ex, and they answer every single endless question you have about their past.

Keep buying into this idea that if you just get a little more validation or reassurance from your partner, eventually this problem goes away. 

Don’t own it at all. Put it on your partner to solve if you want to struggle with retroactive jealousy for the rest of your life. 

Number three, this is another good one: Spend as much time as you can trolling sketchy, unhelpful, open internet forums. 

Seriously, maybe you should quit your job and just spend all day on those forums with all kinds of random people giving you terrible advice. People who’ve never heard the term retroactive jealousy. People who think that you’re a terrible misogynist, in some cases. People who don’t know what the hell they’re talking about. 

Basically, spend as much time as you can in these dodgy open unhelpful internet forums, getting advice from anyone. I mean, anyone dropping by can chime in, and take that subconscious baggage into your psyche. Spend as much time as you can on really sketchy open internet forums. 

Number four is another good one…

Be sure to stalk your partner’s past on social media endlessly.

We’re talking multiple hours a day. Scroll through their entire Facebook timeline. Click on every random profile you see and go through all their friends on Facebook or on Instagram. Look at every picture, and investigate it entirely. 

“Who’s this person? What were they doing there? Why did they leave that comment?”

“Was he dating my girlfriend?” You get the idea. So, scroll through every single post in every single tiny little aspect of their Facebook Timeline, their internet timeline, or their Instagram timeline. 

Moreover, get all the information you can about their past on social media, no matter how insignificant it seems. And then, for bonus points, start pestering them with questions about that. Start asking them questions about posts from Facebook from 20 years ago, or whatever. 

Don’t give up until you’ve exhausted every little nitty-gritty, insignificant detail when it comes to their past on social media. 

struggling with retroactive jealousy

And finally, number five: Continue thinking like a victim and take no action.

Remember, this is for your partner to solve if you just ask them enough questions. If you just get enough validation and reassurance, eventually this will solve your problem. You’re a victim. 

“As a matter of fact, that Zachary guy on YouTube is completely full of crap. Obviously, you cannot beat retroactive jealousy, you’re destined to live with this for the rest of your life. There’s no hope…”

Continue thinking that way, and I promise you, you will struggle with retroactive jealousy endlessly.

Okay, I’m going to stop trolling now…

So, If none of that seems appealing… If you watch this video, and you thought, “You know what, I don’t want to be that guy. That sounds like hell.”

Or maybe you realize that you’re making some of these mistakes that I just outlined in this video.

If you want to start healing as soon as possible, and you want an actual plan to start putting retroactive jealousy behind you…

If you don’t want to be someone who’s struggling with retroactive jealousy for the rest of your life, I’d like to send you a free 4-part video mini-course.

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And If you need more help overcoming retroactive jealousy, check out my online course “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast”.

Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill

Hi! I'm a Canadian author and educator whose work has been featured in BBC News, BBC Radio 4, The Huffington Post, and many other publications. I'm the founder of, the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook, and the host of Humans in Love podcast.