Today is a big day for retroactive jealousy sufferers. A few hours ago, BBC News published a feature about retroactive jealousy, and my story of confronting and overcoming...

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Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: Alice’s story

Alice is a former retroactive jealousy sufferer from the UK. A year ago, she was distraught: plagued by constant, obsessive thoughts and worries about her partner’s...

by Zachary Stockill

Solutions

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Dealing With Obsessive Thoughts With “Brain Lock” [VIDEO]

Dealing with obsessive thoughts isn’t easy. And it especially isn’t easy when the obsessive thoughts are associated with our partner’s past relationships...

by Zachary Stockill

The Situation

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I Beat Retroactive Jealousy… You Can Too [VIDEO]

This video is long overdue… I remember back in 2010, when author Dan Savage started the “It Gets Better” video campaign for LGBT youth. The videos were often...

by Zachary Stockill

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How Do You “Compete” With Your Boyfriend’s Ex?

Are thoughts of your boyfriend’s ex keeping you up at night? Is there a part of you worried about your boyfriend’s ex, and threatened by their relationship?...

by Zachary Stockill

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How Being Vulnerable Can Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy

A few months ago I broke my face. Well, not my whole face, but a crucial part of my face, anyway. One wrong turn on a motorbike in Thailand, and I ended up fracturing my nasal...

by Zachary Stockill

The Situation

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Setting Non-Negotiables: A Simple Way To Get Serious About Self-Improvement in 2015

Happy New Year from Chiang Mai, Thailand! I originally posted this article over on my personal website, but I thought it would be appropriate to share here as well. If...

by Zachary Stockill

The Situation

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Why Memories From Your Partner’s Past Don’t Really Exist

Occasionally I get e-mails from readers who are troubled by their partner’s memories of former lovers. Some people are worried that their partner may look back fondly on...

by Zachary Stockill

Solutions

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VIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”

I’ve received a lot of emails from readers asking about what to do if/when they encounter what I call “trigger” people. A “trigger person” is...

An Easy Way To Stop Jealous Thoughts In Their Tracks

In my guidebook on overcoming retroactive jealousy, I emphasize that no thought can have power over you without your permission. When a jealous thought, or “mental...

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Retroactive Jealousy podcast + BBC News feature

Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: Alice’s story

Dealing With Obsessive Thoughts With “Brain Lock” [VIDEO]

I Beat Retroactive Jealousy… You Can Too [VIDEO]

How Do You “Compete” With Your Boyfriend’s Ex?

How Being Vulnerable Can Help You Overcome Retroactive Jealousy

Setting Non-Negotiables: A Simple Way To Get Serious About Self-Improvement in 2015

Why Memories From Your Partner’s Past Don’t Really Exist

VIDEO: “Help! What should I do if I run into my partner’s ex??”

An Easy Way To Stop Jealous Thoughts In Their Tracks